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Not every first time bride is in her 20s. As women have become career oriented and financially independent, many are deciding to wait to get married. No longer is a thirty year old single woman considered a spinster. Actually, she would be in very good company. Although the average age of the first time American bride is 25, many women are waiting until their thirties or forties before making that trip down the aisle.

A very good thing that has come of the acceptance of older brides is that women feel less pressure to get married just because they are approaching some magical age. It is so much better to wait to meet the right man at 35 than to marry the wrong one just because you are turning 30. Waiting for love is always worth it.

Another great thing about older brides is that they are mature enough to know their own minds and have confidence in their personal taste. If you are not sure what I mean, try this: observe how a 23 year old bride shops for a wedding gown. Almost without fail, the young bride will bring an entire entourage with her to pick out the dress, because she needs guidance and reassurance. Once she has gone through the painstaking process of trying to sort through all of the opinions, she will finally make her choice.

Then watch how a 33 year old bride shops for her gown. The more mature bride brings only one close friend, or shops alone. She does not need to try on thirty dresses, because she already knows what suits her figure and style. Her decision is made much more quickly, and she is unlikely to second guess her choice. This is because she has the benefit of knowing herself better than the inexperienced young lady does.

A more mature bride will certainly select a different type of bridal gown than a young ingenue. She should look for styles that are sophisticated and elegant instead of poufy and princessy. A silk satin column gown with a sweep train would be a fabulous look. The older bride can carry off dramatic jewelry, so she will want to seek out bridal jewelry sets that are bold or unique. The timeless combination of glittering Swarovski crystals and radiant pearls makes stunning bridal jewelry sets.

The best part of waiting to have a wedding until you are in your 30s, 40s, or beyond is that you can do things exactly the way that you and your fiance want them. A mature couple does not have to worry about doing everything the way the bride’s mother wants it, because they are usually paying their own way. With that responsibility comes a marvelous freedom.

I met a most incredible woman who was being married for the first time in her mid 40s. She had been with her gentleman for a long time, but they had never discussed marriage. The woman had come to accept that she would never be a bride. Then one day, out of the blue, her boyfriend proposed. Well, she was in total shock, and her answer was that she was going away to their vacation home for a few days so that he could take time to be sure that he really meant it. If the fellow still wanted to be married when she returned, then she would love to do it.

Can you imagine? No 20 year old would have the confidence to walk away to make sure that her boyfriend had thought everything through enough! After the woman spent a few days at their cabin, her boyfriend followed her up there to assure her that he did indeed want to marry her, and would she please come home? I am pleased to report that they are happily married today.

Like the old song says, “You can’t hurry love”. It is always worth it to wait for that perfect person to come into your life. If that means waiting to get married, then consider it time well spent.

Laura is interested in wedding planning and wedding trends including jewelry,receptions and gifts. Bridal jewelry sets are the perfect finishing touch for your wedding gown.